People have very different boundaries. What is private to one person may be public to another. What is a non-committal question for one, will be an intrusion into their private life for another. These boundaries are set by our personality traits, cultural differences and personal experiences. The message for both sides could be for one side to slow down with its directness, and for the other to understand that the questions are not a test, but a kind of parlor game.
Awareness helps you manage your interpretation of messages. First, however, the differences must be diagnosed and translated into advice for both parties. This is exactly what Em provides.
