This is a terrible way to gain (apparent) an advantage and is often used by people with an aggressive communication style. Sometimes the root of the problem is cultural differences. What in one culture is a method of working out the best solution, in another it may be perceived as public humiliation. In both cases, it is necessary to make both parties aware of what divides them and what connects them the most, and how to use this in communication.
Suggesting abstaining from certain types of behavior will not change toxic automatisms. However, it can individually reduce their intensity, and increase self-control or consolidate other habits over time .
